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What the Narcissist Finds at the End of Themselves



What the Narcissist Finds At the “End of Themselves” : So a major tragedy has just brought you to the end of yourself and it gave you a rare opportunity to see what was there. What…

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  • Vaughan Starr

    I hesitate to say it, because I feel a little like the person who talks about their past lives where they were some famous person, never a street sweeper…but, thank you. You have just described the ten year marriage and break down I have had with my wife who I now see is classical BPD with Narcissistic Personality Disorder thrown in, as it so often is.
    There are many sources on the web, and I have been mining them all deeply. Each has something to offer. No one person could cover it all. But none, have so accurately summed up the last ten years of my life. Thank you for your insight. Your work has had, and will no doubt continue to have a profound effect for the good as I reach now for my own existential meaning.

  • Shinua Morris

    YOU KNOW WHEN U REALLY HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, GOD WILL SHOW U ANYBODY THAT TRIES TO HINDER HIS GLORY, BECAUSE OUR FAITH IS IN GOD, WE KNOW DEMONS EXIST, BUT WE DON'T BELIEVE IN VICTORY FOR THEM THEY ARE IMITATORS, JUST AS WE KNOW GOD HAS ANGELS BUT WE DON'T BELIEVE OR TRUST IN THE ANGELS WITHOUT OUR FAITH BEING IN GOD, SO WE TRUST ON GOD ALONE AND THE FINISHED WORK OF JESUS WHICH IS AND WAS GOD'S PLAN, SO GOD WILL EXPOSED ANYBODY THAT REALLY THINK THEY CAN STOP HIS GLORY, OUR FAITH ITSELF IS IN THE ALMIGHTY, OUR FAITH IS IN GOD THEY CAN'T TEST OUR FAITH BECAUSE IT IS IN GOD, GOD CAN TEST FAITH BECAUSE WE HAVE A FAITHFUL LOVING GOD THAT GROWS US UP IN HIS IMAGE, SO DEMONIC FORCE HAS A CHANCE THEY HAVE A ACT OH BOY DO THEY HAVE A ACT!!!! BUT WHAT ACT IS ANY MATCH FOR THE ALMIGHTY GOD THAT'S WHY OUR FAITH SO STRONG IT'S IN GOD, NOTHING ELSE WE KNOW WE ARE PROTECTED BY THE BLOOD OF JESUS, AND THAT WILL DRIVE ANY DEMON CRAZY AND GOD WILL GIVE THEM A REPROBATE MIND AS WELL AS ACTIONS, GOD WILL SHOW THEIR FOOLISHNESS AND THEY WILL BE A HAMSTER ON A WHEEL AND IT TAKES PLENTY PRAYER PLENTY FASTING PLENTY STRUGGLING BUT THE MORE U STRUGGLE THE MORE U LOVE GOD CRAVE GOD WORSHIP GOD, AND WHEN GOD OPENS YOUR HELMET OF SALVATION, HE WILL SHOW THE MAJOR PRINCIPALITY'S, AND U WILL SEE HOW MINOR THEY REALLY AND THAT ITSELF SUN LION MY BROTHER IS A TESTIMONY IN ITSELF, THAT'S WHY BROTHER TO STRUGGLE LIKE JACOB CERTAIN CASES CIRCUMSTANCES DIFFERENT BUT IT'S ALL TO GLORIFY GOD AND IT'S LIFE MISSION BUT ONCE SAVED ALWAYS SAVED MEANING AS CHRIST SAID NO ONE CAN SNATCH US OUT OF THE FATHER'S HAND, AS WE WRESTLE LIKE ISRAEL AND RECEIVE THAT BLESSING AND THAT BLESSING IS TO LOVE GOD, DESPITE THE CIRCUMSTANCE BLESS U BROTHER PEACE IN JESUS NAME AMEN

  • Jack Hamilton

    I can’t believe what you said! At 7:19 you, as the Narc, say; “Why not have a long-term relationship and see what that is like? Since she’d never tried that before”. My ex-fiancé had 2-3 “serious” relationships before me and a child from one but had never married. She said to me, “Why not get married, I’ve never tried that before”! If only I knew then what I know now.

  • Solarchos

    I wonder if I was a super-empath, because my narcissistic ex-friend did all of those things to me: the demonizing, the triangulation, and I'd already figured out that there was something wrong with her emotionally years before the Discard and begun putting on the emotional armor once again. Hell, after a couple of years of her living with me I'd figured out how to read her body language well enough that I could tell just by LOOKING at her if she was being truthful or not. Her friends quickly became my friends, even a few of the ones who'd originally been her minions (I broke the programming on them) and in a couple of cases those friends of hers came to MY defense. Her extraction plans were very much rushed and her new boyfriend (who lives with his parents) had to do a "hard sell" with his parents to get them to agree to letting her move into his bedroom. She gaslit me for a while, but again former friends of hers came to my defense and forced her to tone things down a lot. She DEFINITELY played the "damsel" and cut off contact with me with all the brutality of a cleaver severing a finger.

    It's been almost a year since then. I've since moved on and genuinely hope I never have to deal with that bitch again. Her parents are NOT pleased with her actions (they didn't raise her like that). I've made new friends since losing her (prior to that we'd been like brother and sister for 14 years). The anxiety and bewilderment I'd once felt steadily diminished over the course of a few weeks and has since then become relief. In the past month I've discovered videos like these, which have helped me to FULLY understand what happened, why it happened, and made me accept that…

    1.) None of this was my fault.
    2.) I didn't deserve what happened.
    3.) Nothing I could have done different would have changed anything.
    4.) I'm genuinely fortunate that nothing really developed between her and I.
    5.) What happened was a blessing in disguise.
    6.) Her new boyfriend is 100% screwed.

    I started last year feeling exhausted, exasperated, and abused.
    I started this year feeling hopeful, liberated, and grateful to be away from her.

  • Locarla Antigone

    Good informative video on narrcissism but must say she can be a he…. this is not gender specific. Also, narcisstic children can be brought up by empathic single mothers who do their best with the resources available but are their target also… peace….

  • Dee Pederson

    And the narcissistic woman can also do harm and damage to other women as well!!! For instance, they will befriend a couple, play their sick twisted game on both of them as she's manipulating him with her lies and fake niceness toward him. Suddenly, the other woman is now part of her nasty little game too. So now, not only is the girlfriend being abused by the female narc but she is also experiencing abuse from the boyfriend too. She will get him to come to her rescue and he'll run out the door while leaving his girlfriend in the dust wondering how she allowed this to happen. These evil scenarios continue as she is the one controlling the puppet's strings. All the while she's getting her rocks off at the pain she is creating between the couple. It really is sad because the only reason why the narc is doing this for her entertainment. She's doing it because she can and she knows she'll get away with it. She gets away it because the second you try to tell someone about it, they look at you like you're the one who's crazy, paranoid, gone off the deep end, jealous etc. It's such a mind fuck that when you face yourself you don't even believe it happened and that maybe you are, after all, crazy like everyone claims. It's a very lonely place to be.

  • DeanRendar84

    covert narcissists exist to eventually teach the lesson to an empath you cant trust everything because were not yet in heaven and theres a (hopefully wiser) way to live life to complete, and out drawing boundaries and distinguishing between true trust and alterior motives is essential for not ending up in a selfish 1 way relationship/friendship. To me there masks are meaningless and all is inherintly obvious when the controlling never correctable stubborness shows right through false manners.

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