If it hurts, it’s possibly abuse.Abuse always hurts. Pain is how we recognize abuse — psychological, actual physical, sexual, religious. How else would you realize you’re being abused if it does not damage!?! But enmeshed emotional incest can be extremely content. It can come to feel like love. “Daddy loves me so much” or “I’m Mom’s particular boy.” This goes on for several years with neither of the joyful members any the wiser…until decades down the line it bites ’em…