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Spirit Sunday – Sheep, Goats, Wolves and God’s Word to the Codependent Heart – Episode 2

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  • Peter Rule

    This is your best video so far! Please do more from a Christian perspective. I do not find strict and hopeless no contact helpful nor appropriate from a Christian perspective. There needs to be tough love sometimes, but there still must be love, even without hope. Love is greater than hope and faith and is beneficial regardless of outcomes.

  • purplesunrise1

    So good!! Absolutely love your Spirit Sunday series. I was entangled with one and it truly felt like they were devouring my soul. It's hard to put into words. I never felt such pain, like no other relationship I have ever had. The longer that I've been away and continue with no contact the better it has gotten. The experience though was so deeply soul crushing that it seemed otherworldly and demonic. Your explanation and references to the bible have brought me some peace and clarity. Thank you! 🙂

  • Nassi Athan

    Great Sunday video, thank you again for sharing your experience and knowledge!! If you are interested and have the time maybe you could check out a youtube channel called "without spot or blemish ministry". In my opinion it is the best channel about the spiritual aspect of narcissism. It has helped me alot, hope you find it helpful too.

  • Eleven By Five

    This was so reassuring. I've noticed that lately I've been getting irritated/angry when I see those posts and memes on tumblr and facebook about love everyone and don't give up on people and unconditional love blah-de-blah snowflakes and unicorns and stuff. Because all my life I thought that stuff was true, and that's partly what led me into this mess. I thought that my responsibility and duty was to keep being there and keep trying and keep taking shit no matter what. Like literally no matter what. And so now it makes me mad when i see those messages telling you you have to love everyone and stand by people but with no qualifiers, because those messages are dangerous imo. And I've felt like am I jaded now? Is that what this means? Because by society's standards, i think i must sound harsh and judegemental and just flat-out mean. So hearing this was such a relief. It helps me to reframe it as that I've matured and become wiser.

    It's so weird (and cool) that this all has actually changed my perception of everything so that now I'm hearing these scriptures in an entirely new light and having so much more awe and respect for them and seeing so much more depth to them. I feel like they've kind of turned from cartoon flat to 3 dimensional!! I'm actually excited to reread them now with different eyes.

    I have a couple of questions/topics that I'd be interested to hear your thoughts on some time. One is free will. There is so much that genetics and environment must influence what we do and who we are, like where does that end? I mean, if we were able to see back far enough and in great enough detail, would we find we were really no more free than wind-up toys?

    Also, on the same theme, why does god create people who are unable to change, like pathological narcissists and stuff? I mean, if their condition is a combination of genetic susceptibility and circumstantial triggers, that seems so unfair. Like they just get a shitty deal from the start, and in a way, they're worse off than us because they don't even know how to have a genuine connection or love. I feel cruel for thinking badly of them and I don't know what to do with that and why god would allow that to be. Like it seems like they've been set up.

    Also connected: this video made me feel less bad about hating the people who have done things to me, but i still do feel like i'm a bad person for not being able to forgive some people and for just feeling anger and rage towards them and wishing they would get their comeuppance. And Jesus says a lot about forgiving people so i feel like i'm failing. How do you integrate those things in this context?

    And now i really want to apologise for the length of this and so many questions but im trying so hard to stop the excessive sorrying but agggghhh i really want to!!!

  • Renee S

    You did unto others as you should have. When your peace wasn't received, you also did the right thing by walking away, shaking the dust from your feet. That's where I am now, with Mr Wrong. Also, and most importantly, thank you for allowing God to use you as his mouth piece. This is the talk I've been praying to God for.

  • Mister Antonius

    Check out Jeremiah 9:3-8KJV

    A snippet:
    1. And they bend their tongue like their bow for lies
    2. trust ye not in any brother: for every brother shall utterly supplant, and every neighbor shall walk with slanders.
    3. And they will deceive everyone his neighbor, and will not speak the truth: they have taught their tongue to speak lies.
    4. Their tongue is like an arrow shot out.

    There's more in those few verses.

    Proverbs 10:18 KJV He that hideth his hatred with lying lips, and he that uttereth a slander is a fool.
    Proverbs 13:20 He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.
    Proverbs 18:21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.

    Judges 16:16 KJV And it came to pass, when she pressed him daily with her words, and urged him, so that his soul was vexed unto death.

    All that nagging by his girlfriend caused Samson to give up on life. This from a man who killed thousands with his hands or with a jawbone of a donkey.

  • MJ Wilder

    Wow! This is an excellent video & exactly what I needed right now.
    You are just adorable, and what a smart cookie! I love the way you link scripture with psychology, and get into what God really wants us to do in terms of forgiveness & repentance. When you made the comparison to "love bombing"….mind blown.
    You have a great handle on this, as well as how you explain things in simple but brilliant terms Are you pursuing a career in the psychology field?
    Sharing this on my fb page, with gratitude. Victims and survivors need to hear this information, especially the ones who's abusers are misrepresenting the Bible and the word of God to excuse their twisted agendas.
    What a perfect video to see, before I head back to my church this afternoon. I have not been in a few years, and am so ready to get back to my loving, supportive church family….and back into the light. There has been entirely too much darkness and evil in mine, and the lives of many others who I care about. Enough is enough.
    Thanks for sharing this. All the best, MJ Wilder

  • amjPeace

    Thank you for sharing this wisdom! I see now that my codependent behavior, including patience and forgiveness and all my efforts to turn the person's face to the light has enabled him to keep looking on the dark side and not turning his face to God at all. It is time for me to discern whether he is a wolf or just a goat with the help of our counselor and if he is a goat it is time to stop butting heads as if I am a goat too. So instead of trying to pull him along I know it is time to concentrate on my own journey. I'm getting out of God's way knowing this person will now be in much more capable Hands. The one thing I never let this person take away from me for the past 44 years is my weekly Sunday visits with my parish family, thank God! In communion I feel connected with all my fellow sheep, living and dead, who are stumbling along through brambles and over rocks and all manner of painful obstacles. It helps me to keep moving in the right direction knowing that I am not alone. And now and then along comes a sweet sheep that seems to know how to avoid the pitfalls and wholeheartedly leads me in a more direct route. So thank you so very much for all that you do.

  • Tina Fina

    Great video again, thanks for sharing & for the end, yes, we can pray for them too "God give them what the NEED to wake up", I understood along the way, that it´s all I could say, I dont know what they need 🙂

  • Kent Allen

    WOW…Well done…Thank You for your Boldness to tell THE Truth…..Wolfs= Narc's truly set me Free… I am sorry for the pain that these predators have inflicted on you and the rest of the survivors .. you are making a difference through your testimony… May the Lord Bless You for your Faithfulness!

  • aqua rian

    Thanks so much for this video. I found the end very comforting. I think it's hard for those of us who were abandoned emotionally or physically by our parents, to trust God won't abandon us. It is for me. Our parental relationships are how we are taught about our child/parent relationship with God for many of us raised in Christian churches. I know the bible says He will not abandon us. For now, I walk towards the light and try my best to accept that as truth. My trust well is dry.

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