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Proverbs 31 Ministries- Therapy & Theology: Narcissism … What it is and what it isn’t

Therapy & Theology: Narcissism … What it is and what it isn’t

A note from Proverbs 31 Ministries: The content in this podcast covers the topic of “narcissism.”

Narcissism is a personality disorder that requires a medical diagnosis. Proverbs 31 Ministries does not condone labeling another person with a personality disorder. Please see the links below if you need help finding a Christian counselor.


It’s a word that gets thrown around a lot, but what does it really mean? And, how does it affect your life?

So … what do we do if we’re in a relationship with a narcissist? And how is narcissism different than a personal struggle with selfishness? And what does selfishness teach us about our own need for God, even if we don’t struggle with narcissism?

In this episode of The Proverbs 31 Ministries Podcast, we’ll unpack narcissism through a conversation between Lysa TerKeurst, her personal licensed counselor Jim Cress and Proverbs 31 Ministries director of theology, Joel Muddamalle.

You will…

Understand the medically defined character traits of a narcissist as well as the difference between narcissism and selfishness.

Discover that the desire of a narcissist — to receive admiration and praise, and to control others — is a human need we all struggle with on some level, that only Jesus can truly fulfill.

Learn that compassion and healthy boundaries are necessary if you are in a marriage, family or working relationship with a narcissist.

Related Resources:

Lysa TerKeurst’s latest Bible study, Trustworthy, releases November 12, 2019. In this 6-session study on 1 & 2 Kings, you can join Lysa in Israel via video as she honestly reveals the places of distrust in her own heart while exploring the deeply personal, applicable Scriptures that will teach us how to truly trust God. Grab your copy of the study through Proverbs 31 Ministries today!

Trustworthy: Overcoming Our Greatest Struggles to Trust God

If you need help processing tough trust issues, we recommend finding a Christian counselor you can trust. The American Association of Christian Counselors is a resource you can trust to find the right counselor for your specific circumstances.




  • Karen Britto

    Thank you for this video. I am married to someone that was diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He left our house and is with the woman he was cheating on me. I so much needed awareness to go through this very hard season of my life. I never left him because I was believed God had a big plan for his life. I cant wait for next video. Thank you

  • Survivor Mom

    I am so pleased to watch this topic from a Christian perspective. Lysa said it exactly, the charm draws you in and fills you up in the beginning, but then they turn around to suck the life out of you emotionally. Yet you long to get the charmer back and you change in hope that if you do this or that you’ll get back the amazing person you were so attracted to in the beginning. Unfortunately, that is the false persona that was an act, this person never exited and was a delusion.

  • Survivor Mom

    Lysa said it exactly, “The ultimate narcissist is Satan.”
    I wholeheartedly agree. Narcissist don’t have a real identity, they are empty. With Jesus there is hope. It may not come for the narcissist, but at least for us victims of their abuse.

  • Chenequa Cash

    Lord is there hope for a Narcissistic and can God save them or can they be saved period? Lord deliver me from self hatred and the emptiness inside. I have all these walls that I don’t know how to let Christ in to love me. I don’t want to be this way. I want to love and be loved.

  • Karen Wood

    I'm always curious why our culture often discusses Narcissistic Personality Disorder but the other cluster b disorders, like Borderline and Histrionic Personality Disorders don't get discussed when they can be result in the same harm to self and other that NPD does…

  • Matt Lesser

    Thank you so much for the Biblical perspective. I have some knowledge from counselors and my own research, but not a Biblical perspective. My husband and I have a son who has been diagnosed with narcissistic histrionic personality disorder. To say their has been judgement is an understatement. It is incredibly sad to watch the poor decisions my son has made, coupled with the shame of his father and I. Most people assume we did something wrong and that one or both of us must have the disorder as well. I am very interested in your ideas on how to deal with the situation in your next video. Thank you so much for tackling a problem that affects many families.

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