Covert Narcissists, like my Mother, are good at not being the “Bad Guy”. She always has someone else to do their “Dirty Work” for her. My Narcissistic Mother uses my Father to abuse-by-proxy. This voicemail is from my Father on Father’s Day morning. He had been so mean to me this year, and so I decided (for the first time EVER) not to send him something for Father’s Day. My Mom called a few hours later, as if she didn’t have a clue about my Father’s actions.