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Narcissistic Abuse Help Children of Narcissists

There is a lot of information available on the internet regarding narcissistic abuse, narcissistic abuse victim syndrome, healing Cptsd due to emotional abuse and overcoming the abuse inflicted by narcissistic parents; however, having someone guide and mentor you on your healing journey can be so helpful. If you feel you can benefit from inviting someone on your healing journey, please check out these links for face to face coaching and/or phone coaching: For those interested in an interactive self-help journal, here is the link for the PDF entitled I Miss Me and I Want Me Back Michele is someone that has truly been there; after surviving 31 years of narcissistic abuse by family members and significant others, she now dedicates her time and energy toward helping others as a Trauma Recovery Coach and soon to be a Certified Kinesiology Practitioner to help others that are still on their road to recovery. For those that are going to court against a narcissist, the PDF entitled When The Devils The Defendant has been a helpful tool for thousands-
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A male target of narcissistic abuse asked me if I would be interested in ghost writing his memoir and after hearing his story I was hooked. It’s one thing to hear about what narcissistic abuse is, to learn about triangulation, blame shifting, projection, narcissistic supply, gaslighting and so many other terms and manipulation tactics we come to learn about on our journey to heal from narcissistic abuse. But it’s another story to delve into the life of someone trapped in a trauma bond by a female histrionic narcissist. This memoir, written in novel form, takes you on the roller coaster ride of highs and lows that are typical in emotionally abusive relationships.
Here is a brief description of the book, a link is found below.
This memoir opens the door to what my life was like dating a female histrionic narcissist. The beginning of the relationship was surreal – if ever I had fantasized about what the perfect girl would be – it paled in comparison to what Angel was truly like and how she enhanced my life. If I were to compare her to anyone I had ever dated – it would not be fair; it would be like comparing a painting done with finger paints hanging on a refrigerator door, held up with a magnet, to Michelangelo’s art scenes from Genesis painted on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel in Rome.
The feeling Angel gave was a perfect purity of manifested perfection. I quite literally could not imagen a girl more totally perfect, my imagination was stretched just to take in the reality of her. She took me in every way she possibly could to the heights beyond the tops of Mt. Everest in sensual and hedonistic pleasure.
She brought me to the edge of the stratosphere where the air is so thin you have to wear a space suit – but the view – the view is all humanity stretched out before you and you can see the curvature of the earth and the blackness of space.
And then she dropped me.
While reading this story there are no definitions spelled out as to narcissistic abuse, nor what histrionics are like, rather a picture is painted before your eyes. You will see the idealization phase, notice the cycle of highs and lows that are signature to emotionally abusive relationships, you will watch in horror as the trauma bonds can cause a person to make the worst, self-destructive decisions possible.
I’m inviting you to bear witness to my journey. What looked so innocent and enticing quickly turned into a covert poison that cost me a million-dollar business, my health, provoked a suicide attempt and left me homeless and suffering brain damage. This is my story. It’s not meant to entice sympathy, rather it’s a wake- up call for anyone that is in a relationship with someone narcissistic, sociopathic, histrionic or a cocktail of mixed cluster b disorders.



  • Breakthrough Moment

    "It was like I was glued to my chair and I was frozen." I can totally relate to what you were experiencing. The same thing would happen to me at social gatherings, potlucks, family dinners, etc. I would recede into my shell. It was especially uncomfortable at work, where I would often get excluded from the potlucks and couldn't even get up to "get my own food." I was dissociating and didn't have a name for it. The sad thing is that people really aren't too charitable about it and start to treat you like you're an outcast. At that time, I wasn't cognizant of the fact that "freeze and fawn" were typical trauma responses. This was a carry forward from childhood trauma in the FOO and in the classroom, where I would often get excluded from group activities with classmates, on field trips, etc. It's astounding how we carry our fears and trepidations (the fear of exclusion in my case) into adulthood and the slightest trigger can set them off and manifest similar circumstances in one's life, like a self-fulling prophesy. They are there to serve as reminders of our unresolved issues that we must attend to. Thanks to channels like yours, awareness is beginning to build around this still very taboo topic.

  • mixtic shell

    After going no contact with the ex narc, I also experienced cptsd. I had lost who I was. My family and friends missed the old me. It's been 4 years since no contact, I am now more myself. It's so liberating to be free and true to who you really are. It takes time. So glad I didn't have kids with the narc. Unfortunately his first wife had 2 sons with him and she discarded him but didn't fight to take her children who are now adults. His sons don't have a relationship with him because they say that he's an a– hole. His older son went completely no contact. Off topic, love the earrings.

  • J D

    Since you were a parent in a narc household and were most likely viewed as another child, how did you rebuild/build a relationship with your children so they would value and trust your opinion, come to you for advice, etc.? And how could someone do that with young children (5 and under)

  • Warren C

    I get PTSD Flash-backs sometimes, mainly when I get super angry with someone when I feel they are disrespecting me, because before I knew my Narc I had much more patience towards others.

    But I am working on this trying to recover from the abuse my Narc put me through and get back to my old self, but even better than before.

  • R.A. Andrews

    This is a very important message. When we ask our child the why questions and listen to his/her answers, we show the same respect for them and their feelings that we want them to learn to show towards themselves.

  • Yoda

    Thank you Michelle. I understand what you are saying. Personally, I am having to do this with inner child work as well. There will be times when I need to do an internal check and ask how I am feeling. I then stated out loud when I am alone. This is helping me to identify my own feelings.

  • Maria Makinen

    I am the ransom price between two narc bosses. MXN did the favour of tearing my genitalia, which mf always insisted. A gipsy priest was the bigoted executive collaborator. My daughter is with the narc f. Under his command/ control. This not helping me

  • Danielle Funk

    I am getting SO SICK of my daughters attitude!! I seem like im making progress and then she treats me like crap again!! shes driving me insane! she gives me anxiety just like the narc did! And he has been filling her head with crap when she goes over there! He has been saying that cash aid is ''dirty money'. she has been having an attitude about cash aid and treating me like im a loser for needing that money. I knew he was talking shit when she went over there and she just confirmed it last night! So i dont have enough guilt about being too sick to work, no, he has to throw on there that im a loser because i get assistance!! God i want to break his knees!!! errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

  • Daniel C

    I have a can't be vulnerable around people because in my past I was attacked during my most vulnerable moments. I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop at any moment, so I learned not to get my emotions and hopes up too high. I firmly believe that my self diagnosed cptsd, has killed off my once joyous personality. I actually feel more comfortable around total strangers than with my own family members.

  • *adembasou*

    we are allways free to say NO! to anything and anyone. end of story. 🙂 if someone can not respect a NO! they are the ones who are wrong and can go f……themselves frankly. does not mean what some narcs who are watching might think though …..when one is in a relationship both partners have to equally make a effort for it to work and care for the others emotions, boundaries etc. and also try to bring each other joy. However it does not mean being totally withdrawn all the time and withhold emotional affection or constantly controlling and belittleling the other.

  • Black Rose

    My Narcissistic husband burned all my clothing and my belongings , and after a 3 months of devastating and heart break he told me I shouldn’t be sad it was no big deal AND HE DID NOT FEEL RESPONSIBLE OR SORRY FOR WHAT HE HAD DONE TO ME IN THE CONTRARY HE SAY I DESERVED IT

  • SuzeSinger

    AMEN ! ….that is….just how it gets us to be !?!
    I heard n have found that we keep going to anywhere we wish – and create GOOD memories REGARDLESS of the BAD memories.
    It helps us be conquerors and overcomers.o/

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