First, for the unaware, let us explain what a ‘narcissist’ means. A ‘narcissist’ is someone who is unhealthily in love with themselves. They have an excessive interest and admiration of themselves, and hold themselves in the highest regard. Now, you might wonder why this is a bad thing, when we’re also the ones who preach self-love. So here’s the thing – dealing with people who suffer from a superiority complex can definitely be taxing, to say the least. Whether it’s at your workplace, or in your personal life. Imagine trying to get through or around someone who feels that they can never do or be wrong – it’s bound to make you livid!
There are often people who complain about being in a constant battle with their better halves, putting it all down to an ego clash. Well sometimes, the root cause of that big ego you keep defaming is narcissism at its best. Your partner has a big head, and thinks no end of themselves – that’s more than just a big ego, my friend.
If you’ve made it till here, you probably already have a clue that the one you’re in love with, could quite possibly what they call a ‘narcissist’… if you need to be sure, here are 5 signs that you’re absolutely on point!
1. Constant sense of entitlement
For the typical narcissist, the world owes them a whole lot. Whether it’s love, power, affection– he feels he deserves to be the centre of everyone’s attention.
2. Need for validation
Narcissists need constant attention, and though they may come across as super confident people, they are always seeking approval in the eyes of others. Be it with their looks, or their work, if your guy’s a narcissist, he’ll need you to keep telling him how good he is at everything.
3. Control freak
Okay, so this point is one of the biggest symptoms of a narcissist. Since narcissists are continually disappointed with the imperfect way life unfolds, they want to do as much as possible to control it and mould it to their liking. He will always try to mend your ways, point out your faults, highlight your flaws – all under the pretext of helping you evolve into a better person, with a better life. The truth is, all he wants is control. He feeds off of the sense of dependency he creates in others.
4. Blame games and deflection
Though they revel in having the ability to control another human being’s life, when it comes to taking responsibility for something, or owning up to anything – they will always backtrack. Instead, they will find a way to turn things around in such a way, it will make you question your own sanity.They are pros at deflecting.
5. Lack of Empathy
Narcissists fail to see anything from the point of view of another person, and are often under the misconception that they have the ability to think objectively. They are, however, extremely perceptive, and can pick up on any signs of danger, threat, or any change in vibes.